by William MartinezFor the past few weeks I have been working very hard, close to 12 hour days, and I finally had the last two days to spend with my family. It is amazing how distance from your loves ones can make your heart grow fonder and amplify just what they mean to you. We live day to day, going from task to task, and get caught up in living life, that we forget what it is all for, until something gives us a violent awakening. It could be someone moving away, someone passing away, or a major life change. I missed my family for those couple of weeks, but it wasn’t just the family I live with. I started to miss my parents, my siblings, everyone important to me.
The weird thing is, it all hit me this morning! Luckily for me, I paid attention. I paid attention to what these overwhelming feelings were telling me… tell them!! Tell them how much you missed them and how important they are to you. Tell them you think about them and worry about them. I think this is why we are so overwhelmed when someone close passes on. Part of it is guilt. Guilt that they didn’t know how much we loved them; how we appreciated everything they have done for us and what they have meant to us in our lives. The impact they have made for us. Tell them. Tell them now. Tell them several times over. And for all of the fellas, don’t be afraid to tell your dad that you love him. That is the biggest thing I used to see amongst my male clients. Repressed feelings would emerge about how these guys wish they had a better relationship with there dad.
Tell them. Tell them now. I don’t want to say tell them before it is too late, but if that is what it takes for you to tell them, then I will! They may not understand why you are telling them these things; they may look at you strange, or even call you nuts. Who cares! I promise you that after you do so you will feel…well… sort of cleansed in a way. Or at least, at peace knowing that they know now. I have to go everyone… I have some phone calls to make, and some people to tell, how about you?
